When you have an active social life, and you get to interact with a lot of people on a daily basis, you are bound to have some arguments. When there is an argument, usually someone gets angry. The problem is not getting angry. Anger is a natural response.
The factor that sets certain people different from others is tolerance. Even the calmest, collected and composed, people feel anger, but instead of expressing it, they practice tolerance and calm down. You should always try to calm yourself and increase your tolerance when you are angry and here are some effective and common tricks for anger management and relaxing your mind.
Go to Your Happy Place
Imagine a super peaceful and soothing place in your mind and create a happy place. It is a well-documented and widely used psychological technique to calm your mind in any stressful or highly emotional situation. This is a great way to stay calm and avoid doing or saying anything rash during the anger-inducing situation. It is a method to distance you from the situation and get some perspective mentally. Many people have ruined their lives because of anger and ended up regretting it later, so don’t be one of those people and try to stay calm and relaxed.
Think of the People You Love
Another effective anger management technique that is suggested by many psychologists is thinking about your loved ones. You wouldn’t want your children or family to see you when you are super angry and yelling. So, think about them and be the person you want them to see and take inspiration from. It is an effective method to stop yourself from making any emotional and rash decisions, and it keeps you civil and focused. This way, you have a higher probability of explaining and conveying your concerns effectually and coming to a solution of the scenario that causes anger.
Distance Yourself from the Situation
A method that is commonly taught in anger management is distancing yourself from the anger-inducing situation physically. Most professionals suggest taking a walk to think about the situation. It allows you to look at the issue from the perspective of everyone involved, and you can find a non-emotional and logical solution to the problem.
Also, by distancing yourself from the issue, you make sure that you don’t do anything rash that you may regret later. So, the next time you have an argument at work or at home that makes you angry, take a break and go for a walk, think about the problem logically instead of emotionally to come to a solution.
Chew Some Gum or Have a Smoke
When you are angry, you should find an activity that will calm you down so that you won’t vent on others and make some bad decisions. Some people make the mistake of turning towards alcohol to get rid of the anger, but that is not safe at all. Alcohol is your enemy in every situation, especially when you are in an emotional state.
Instead, you should chew some gum or maybe have a smoke. If a simple smoke doesn’t work, you can also turn to cannabis. Cannabis is legal in many states of America and Canada, and you can use cannabis to calm down. Cannabis causes a feeling of euphoria and happiness, while alcohol causes numbness, and it can even increase anger. According to many users, pink bubba cannabis is one of the most effective cannabis strains for anger management.
Meditate and Use Breathing Techniques to Calm Down
Another common anger management method is using breathing exercises to meditate and calm down. Scientists and psychologists suggest that when you are angry at a situation, you should take three deep and relaxing breaths, inhaling from your nose and breathing out from the mouth. Then you should take a seat and have a glass of water before you take any action.
This simple exercise can calm and tame your anger significantly allowing you to think more clearly and effectively. It is a great method to calm down instantly and move towards the solution of the issue instead of escalating it with anger.
Don’t Bottle Up Your Anger
Expressing yourself is very important, and you should always make a point to do it, but not when you are emotional and angry. If a situation makes you angry, take some time and figure out why. Think about the reasons in your mind and try to express them in a way that doesn’t offend anyone.
Psychologists suggest using ‘I’ more often and refraining from pointing the blame on others. This is an effective tip for conflict resolution. Say statements like ‘I believe’ and ‘I feel’ instead ‘you’ statements and start your argument with acknowledging that you understand the other persons perspective. This will allow you to express yourself in a civil and professional manner, and it won’t ignite any anger in anyone.
I hope the article helps you tame your anger and achieve a calmer state of mind. Leave a comment below!
About the Author:
Jack is a psychotherapist and neurodegenerative disorders’ expert. He has been practicing in New York for 25 years now, and since then he has been fighting to make marijuana legal in the United States for it comes with numerous health benefits. You can read his blogs at https://thegreenace.ca/category/the-green-ace-blog/.